Sadly, despite the best of intentions, not all engagements lead to marriage. It begs the question: If the engagement is broken off and the couple doesn’t get married, who gets to keep the bling?

An engagement ring, or wedding ring, is often an item whose sentimental value far exceeds its actual monetary value. Sentimental value, however, can get thrown out the window during a divorce when both parties are trying to split their marital property.

Still, the real value of a wedding or engagement ring can be significant enough for concern. A jewelry piece of any kind can be a high-value asset, but not many people look for a bargain when they’re purchasing a representation of their love and commitment.

So how do rings factor in a divorce? Courts can view engagement rings and wedding rings as separate property. At times, rings are considered “gift[s] in contemplation of marriage” or “conditional gifts”. The argument goes that the ring was given to someone before marriage and as a condition of marriage, so it counts as their property if the marriage occurred. 

However, in New Hampshire, it is much more likely that such a gift will be weighed as a marital asset in favor of the recipient. This means that while the ring-giver will not get the ring back, they will be entitled to an “offset” on their side of the property balance sheet. New Hampshire is a marital property state. The standard is that the parties are entitled to an equitable distribution of their property, which is presumed to be 50/50 (but not always). 

Often times, it is better for the married couples to forego arguments about personal possessions the longer the marriage. Indeed, trying to recover an engagement or wedding ring can look really spiteful and hurt your overall standing with the judge. 

When the Ring Is a Family Heirloom

Sometimes people propose to their loved ones with a ring that once belonged to another relative in their family like a mother, grandmother, or even earlier than that. When an engagement or wedding ring is such an heirloom, the courts look at its ownership a little differently during divorce.

It’s not a guarantee, as few matters are in divorce, but a ring-giver who used a family heirloom to propose or wed someone else has the right to request its return. Again, this is a question of what is fair and equitable, and depends on a variety of factors. 

When an Engagement Breaks up

If an engagement falls through, the parties will need to consider a petition to partition through the Superior Court. The Family Court has little jurisdiction for property disputes of unmarried parties. It is possible that the Superior Court may consider the ring to be conditional gift where the condition was marriage. If the marriage did not occur, the ring can be returned. However, the Court may need to consider a number of factors that go beyond “who bought the ring”. 

How to Avoid Engagement Ring Disputes During Divorce

A lot of time can be wasted during divorce proceedings if parties are fighting over who gets which rings back and whether or not they’re family heirlooms. Arguments like these over specific items can bog down the process and drag it out for much longer than is necessary.

A great way to help avoid this arguments with one another over ownership of a ring during divorce is to prevent it from happening. This can be done by settling ownership with a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement.

By outlining which property belongs to either party as separate property before marriage, couples who later divorce can avoid wasting time and money fighting over individual items or assets – rings of all kinds included.

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